Opening more emails again this week proved to be interesting. I was faced with
two totally opposing points of view on the subject of expressing gratitude. Sometimes it’s a smile,
a joke or even a kind word. The first one was another by the gentleman who had sent me an
before that was very moving
He said he felt like giving is expressing gratitude, whether the words are spoken
or not. I’d have to agree with him. Each moment is an opportunity to give, as
long as it is done freely. You may not be giving to the same person that has
given to you, but the spirit is there. Giving results in a higher vibration inside
yourself. It is uplifting both to the giver and the receiver. It doesn’t have to be
physical to be meaningful. Sometimes it’s a smile, a joke or even a kind word.
that can make someone’s day. The resulting vibrations cause you to attract
positive things into your own life. I hadn’t ever thought about it in those terms,
but felt comfortable with his philosophy. You will attract positive people if you
are sending positive signals.
The opposing email caused me some consternation, She was offended by my blog post
on gratitude. I had never thought about that happening. It is hard to pull back in order to be neutral.
I reread the email several times, just to try to understand where her feelings were coming from, trying to think
whether it was somehow my fault.
The subject line should have warned me, but I had no clue what DGP meant.
She told me near the end. She agrees that while expressing gratitude is uplifting,
it is over prescribed, She said although she is not seeing that doctor who prescribed gratitude, she still
had not shaken her resentment.
Then she explained DGP means Difficult Gratitude Problem.
I never heard of it before. She said gratitude discussions can get tedious.
c Gratitude loses its magic through lengthy sessions. It becomes a test
of endurance because once she has stated that gratitude does not do it for her,
it’s game over.
Her other DGP concludes that forcing gratitude doesn’t work. Saying
affirmations that you don’t believe, leaves you feeling silly. Being grateful for
something you have always taken for granted doesn’t work either.
Talking about gratitude becomes too habitual. Keeping a daily list of things you
are grateful for, becomes a chore. Knowing that no exceptions will be granted.
While it becomes routine for some, others feel is a dreaded routine
She then comments that routines are a good thing, as long as you don’t lose
the sight of the fact that routines are made to be broken.
Finding gratitude in the midst of a problem, loss, or chaos is like striking mood
Then the email explains how she deals with DGP. She picks one
thing that's bothering her. She keeps a journal, it must not be restricted content.
She does not do this daily. Since the DGP exists, she saves journaling for those
She keeps a folder of “happy things,” like notes, or articles and
jokes. A pretty, decorated jar of awesome notes stores memories of happy
Her final way to combat DGP is to make a list of one hundred things she
should be grateful for. Since one hundred is a lot, it is a healthy exercise. Really
stimulates the brain like a gratitude binge
I suppose that DGP is food for thought. I try to be more of a role model for my
adult children. As we age it becomes easier to choose a positive focus